Parenting is a beautiful art that blends the colors of love, care, concern, and warmth. Not all parents have same set of skills and abilities but still all children can grow in a healthy and comfortable environment. It’s just a matter of how you tackle different situations and how you stimulate your child’s growth.
Most of the parents make one big mistake of connecting their aspirations and dreams with their children’s success. All parents want their children to be successful in this competitive world and therefore they all push their children hard. There is resentment if their children are not able to fulfill their aspirations. Is this parenting all about? Is this what successful parents are known for?
Just give a thought over that special moment when you took your baby in your arms for the first time. Think about the tender loving touch, the nappy change, a cuddle, and a big smile the birth of your child gave you. You’ll feel a deep sense of contentment; you’ll feel happy, then why this kind of resentment today? Don’t force your dreams and ambitions on your child. Just follow your heart and allow your child’s lead.
When it comes to good parenting, the most important agenda is how parents raise their children. It should always be a fun filled journey that you move with your children. You should enjoy every single step that you move along teaching good thing and imparting values within your child. Don’t take it as a job or a mission, just look at his moving steps, listen to his unspoken words, learn his silent language, and discover him. Give him all the love and care he deserves and demands to thrive in this competitive world.
As they grow, don’t let them be buried under your aspirations and expectations. Let them grow their own way and take a huge flight in an open world outside. Expose them to warmth, security, and friendliness. Let them know you are there whenever they need you. Let them feel your presence and shower all your love. Always remember that showering your love is very crucial for healthy growth of your child but that does not mean that you fulfill all your child’s unwanted demands. Don’t replace your love with materialistic things, that’s not love. This will rather spoil your child and lead him or her to an unwanted and unwished destination. Try and maintain a balance in all what you do. Too much liberalism is also not good and too much harshness is also not healthy as both in the end deliver harsh colors of reality.
It is equally important to understand your child’s need and behavior. Know what he or she wants to achieve in life and drop your own expectations. Be proud of their accomplishments, congratulate them on their academic success but don’t bury them under your heavy wishes, dreams, and expectations. Accept them as they are and let them create their own milestones. Every child is different in its own way and fortunately or unfortunately not all can be doctors, not all can be managers, not all can be actors. Every child has his or her own dream and his or her own way of life. Don’t try to suppress your child’s drive and appreciate him or her for what he or she is achieving.
Your child needs you at every step so be his or her friend at every stage. Listen to your child, respond with love, and let him explore his or her own world of possibilities. Furthermore, acknowledge your child’s feelings and give him the most secured feeling of being loved all the time all the way. Then, of course the art of parenting will sprinkle new colors of joy and excitement to your life, making your life more beautiful and heavenly.